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Learning that unfortunately.
I like the idea of swapping out books
Sucks, but there's better jobs to be had out there, best of luck in your search.
If anything, mouth off to the manager guy next time as it seems like he can't touch you, it would probably have to go through a bunch of channels before anything happened. Then again I'm not sure on GA's new hire trial period.
Sucks, but there's better jobs to be had out there, best of luck in your search.
If anything, mouth off to the manager guy next time as it seems like he can't touch you, it would probably have to go through a bunch of channels before anything happened. Then again I'm not sure on GA's new hire trial period.
Found out i have to have surgery on my wrist. Pretty stressed right now...
Sounds like you guys just need to breathe a bit. He may be stressed due to the loss of his friend. Try to take a moment to give yourself some clarity, go out with some friends and vent to them. Do anything you can to get your mind off of it. Dwelling on this situation won't help.
When you move in with your partner, the relationship dynamic can change a bit. Stress does that as well.. I got complacent and boring when my ex moved in with me. I lost the s**t job I was working, received unemployment, and everything changed. The spark came back, I took her out and surprised her all the time etc. He just needs change, I'm sure, and I don't mean you.
Man. That is some serious horse s**t. If I had to sit and do nothing, I'd lose my mind. Definitely keep looking for other work. You'll find something!
Stop beating off so much dude!
you'll be good, man. Give it the appropriate time to heal and you'll be back to work/normal in no time.Tired as all hell today, don't want to be at work. Such is life.
f**k tha police
I just hope he decides he actually wants to do things with me. It makes me feel like he doesn't want me anymore. And worst case, he'll start looking around for something else...
If I was more confident I don't think I'd be worrying as much.
I look at it this way, if you try everything within in your power to be the best girlfriend that you can be, offer all that you can to him and to be fair; you've done your part. Unfortunately other people make their own decisions. All that you can do is be supportive, make sure that he knows how you feel about him, and stay positive.
I would be heartbroken if my girl of 6 years (in October) left me, but I have no control over it, all that I can do is my best. At the end of the day, she is free to make her own decisions, as am I. Just like you and your man. It's a scary thought, but it is what it is.
Just stay on the same page with him and keep an open line or communication. Don't be afraid to voice your opinions, if it's how you really feel then it's who you are. He needs to be comfortable with who you are deep down inside, and you do the same to him.
I hope everything works out for him and hopefully this is just some phase. I'm here if you need me! We all are.
Today i have gotten more stuff ready to go back to school. I have also started looking up parts again for my car. I am about to start getting back to it finally after so long. I am surprised i actually have the money to hopefully finish it for the most part this time. It's interesting everytime i log back on here. For the most part people carry on the same it appears.
Cleaned the gutters
Cleaned the roof
Cleaned some of the patio but this sun is killin me
Also threw the foozball around a bit
Cleaned the roof
Cleaned some of the patio but this sun is killin me
Also threw the foozball around a bit
^What Nick said. Communication is key. Find an opportune time (notice how I didn't say "wait for one".. FIND it), and discuss this with him. Let him know how you feel. If he acts like a douche, tell him he's acting like a douche and give him space.
Yep. Respectfully. No need for arguments.
It takes two to argue, and you can control yourself, so just talk it out
We already have talked about it (earlier last week) and I just haven't seen any changes. However it's still really fresh, he's still really excited about his new house, and his friend's death is also a damper on everything. I'm trying my absolute best to stay patient but if I don't see some change soon... it's going to be really upsetting.
Breaking up was brought up when we talked about it, and he refuses that option. He keeps telling me "we'll get through this, we both just need to work on things". Which is very true. I need to chill out and he needs to pay a little more attention to my needs every once in a while. When I first brought up how I feel he got a little defensive, but once he thought about it he actually felt really bad. He was calling himself an a*****e. It's not true, he just doesn't THINK about stuff like that. He's not the type to be an a*****e, he just forgets.
I just am the one that's more in love (there's always one that loves the other more), and that really scares me. It puts me in the position to get hurt. But like I said, I brought up the fact that maybe we just won't work together. And he did not like that answer.
It's a little funny now that I think about it. When I met him I didn't want a relationship, but I couldn't stop thinking about him. So we hung out frequently and he wanted a relationship, I wasn't so sure at the time. He had to basically sit me down and say "date me or nothing at all".
But I warned him before we started that I was high maintenance in the way that I do need to be reassured that I am still wanted, and that it can make me really upset. He knew what he was getting into. Haha.
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I'm just going to speak as someone who's been in his shoes. I was with a girl for about 8 years and we were very serious, practically married, had a place together, the whole 9. It's true there's always the one who is invested more and her and I went back and forth. We had issues and always tried to work them out. When it came time that I needed to step back, she couldn't respect my space and it made things really difficult.
We were looking into big changes as far as careers and where to live, etc. They say you're supposed to be able to get through these things together and work it out, but some times, you really need to be sure it's what you want for you. That may sound selfish, but really when you're together like that, it's because it makes you the happiest and the same for them.
Her and I didn't work because she couldn't just give me that inch to breathe. I guess towards the end, she had more invested, but I just felt like I couldn't step away for even a second for fresh air. She got scared and trying to pull me back just pushed me further away.
I wouldn't bother him about what you guys are going through. Just be there for him if he needs someone to talk to, like about the house, or his friend, etc. Leave the relationship aspect of it to be worked out by him, he'll talk to you as he needs to and I'm sure he'll greatly appreciate the space you give him.
If he doesn't want to break up, he may actually mean it, so take it as for what it is and let it be, it's really the best thing you can do for it. You should really get out, go the gym, and spend some time with friends (Yours, not his, or you'll seem super desperate
). Get your mind off of things (maybe) and at least show him you're not just a lost puppy waiting for your owner to come back (odd wording for the reference, but you get it). You must be a Cancer (sign)
Sounds like dude definitely just needs some room to breathe. Give him that, and get some yourself. Sometimes when we're really invested in someone emotionally, the idea of being apart from them is borderline terrifying. You should always be good on your own, regardless. The best relationships occur out of sheer desire, not necessity (i.e. the both of you are in the mindset of 'I don't NEED you, I want to be with you'). Not saying you're dependent (either of you), but this is a two way street. He's gotta put in just as much as you do.We already have talked about it (earlier last week) and I just haven't seen any changes. However it's still really fresh, he's still really excited about his new house, and his friend's death is also a damper on everything. I'm trying my absolute best to stay patient but if I don't see some change soon... it's going to be really upsetting.
Breaking up was brought up when we talked about it, and he refuses that option. He keeps telling me "we'll get through this, we both just need to work on things". Which is very true. I need to chill out and he needs to pay a little more attention to my needs every once in a while. When I first brought up how I feel he got a little defensive, but once he thought about it he actually felt really bad. He was calling himself an a*****e. It's not true, he just doesn't THINK about stuff like that. He's not the type to be an a*****e, he just forgets.
I just am the one that's more in love (there's always one that loves the other more), and that really scares me. It puts me in the position to get hurt. But like I said, I brought up the fact that maybe we just won't work together. And he did not like that answer.
It's a little funny now that I think about it. When I met him I didn't want a relationship, but I couldn't stop thinking about him. So we hung out frequently and he wanted a relationship, I wasn't so sure at the time. He had to basically sit me down and say "date me or nothing at all".
Sound advice, although don't simply throw your hands in the air and let him deal with it. Let him know you're there if he needs you, and give him a little space. He will appreciate you handling it that way.I'm just going to speak as someone who's been in his shoes. I was with a girl for about 8 years and we were very serious, practically married, had a place together, the whole 9. It's true there's always the one who is invested more and her and I went back and forth. We had issues and always tried to work them out. When it came time that I needed to step back, she couldn't respect my space and it made things really difficult.
We were looking into big changes as far as careers and where to live, etc. They say you're supposed to be able to get through these things together and work it out, but some times, you really need to be sure it's what you want for you. That may sound selfish, but really when you're together like that, it's because it makes you the happiest and the same for them.
Her and I didn't work because she couldn't just give me that inch to breathe. I guess towards the end, she had more invested, but I just felt like I couldn't step away for even a second for fresh air. She got scared and trying to pull me back just pushed me further away.
I wouldn't bother him about what you guys are going through. Just be there for him if he needs someone to talk to, like about the house, or his friend, etc. Leave the relationship aspect of it to be worked out by him, he'll talk to you as he needs to and I'm sure he'll greatly appreciate the space you give him.
If he doesn't want to break up, he may actually mean it, so take it as for what it is and let it be, it's really the best thing you can do for it. You should really get out, go the gym, and spend some time with friends (Yours, not his, or you'll seem super desperate
You must be a Cancer (sign)
If he's said he doesn't want to break up, he doesn't. Guys don't generally say things like that if they don't mean it.
I'm just going to speak as someone who's been in his shoes. I was with a girl for about 8 years and we were very serious, practically married, had a place together, the whole 9. It's true there's always the one who is invested more and her and I went back and forth. We had issues and always tried to work them out. When it came time that I needed to step back, she couldn't respect my space and it made things really difficult.
We were looking into big changes as far as careers and where to live, etc. They say you're supposed to be able to get through these things together and work it out, but some times, you really need to be sure it's what you want for you. That may sound selfish, but really when you're together like that, it's because it makes you the happiest and the same for them.
Her and I didn't work because she couldn't just give me that inch to breathe. I guess towards the end, she had more invested, but I just felt like I couldn't step away for even a second for fresh air. She got scared and trying to pull me back just pushed me further away.
I wouldn't bother him about what you guys are going through. Just be there for him if he needs someone to talk to, like about the house, or his friend, etc. Leave the relationship aspect of it to be worked out by him, he'll talk to you as he needs to and I'm sure he'll greatly appreciate the space you give him.
If he doesn't want to break up, he may actually mean it, so take it as for what it is and let it be, it's really the best thing you can do for it. You should really get out, go the gym, and spend some time with friends (Yours, not his, or you'll seem super desperate
You must be a Cancer (sign)
I'm trying my absolute best to give him space, and once I go do something for myself (i.e. the gym last night) I actually feel really good. But something in the back of my mind is scared that he's doing something... else... that I don't necessarily like. And I honestly don't know where that comes from. He's NEVER done anything even REMOTELY sketchy. That's my own insecurities, which is very unfortunate. I don't tell him this every time. I just eat it. Because generally he's just playing video games or something.
No, I'm not hanging out with his friends
I have my own. I just really want to feel like we have that "spark" again. I feel like it's lost. And I don't want to be the one to bring it up all the time. I want him to WANT to do something nice together. He used to do that all the time. But I am trying my absolute best to just be patient. He still tells me that the next step after this is to move in with me, so I guess that's good.
Again guys, thank you for letting me dump this on you. I'm just in a hard place and I don't really know where to go about it. I need to talk to people that aren't biased (I dunno, maybe you guys are).
Nope. I'm a Libra btw.
Like we have anything better to do in this thread?
No but really, don't feel bad.
Does he know that you feel like he's not putting in enough effort into the relationship?
Me personally, I've been with the same girl since I was 15. I've lived with her since I was 16. I have zero interest in living with any of my guy friends for any amount of time. I guess these are just personal feelings and his are different, but I personally can't see or understand the appeal in it.
If the end game in life is to settle down with a woman that you love and can get along with well enough to stay happy, and learn from each other.. Then why risk losing that to "chill with the guys"?
I'm on your side boo boo!
No but really, don't feel bad.
Does he know that you feel like he's not putting in enough effort into the relationship?
Me personally, I've been with the same girl since I was 15. I've lived with her since I was 16. I have zero interest in living with any of my guy friends for any amount of time. I guess these are just personal feelings and his are different, but I personally can't see or understand the appeal in it.
If the end game in life is to settle down with a woman that you love and can get along with well enough to stay happy, and learn from each other.. Then why risk losing that to "chill with the guys"?
I'm on your side boo boo!
It's just your mind racing imo.
Continue doing you and get your mind on something more positive
Hmm, so maybe what I told you before wasn't blowing smoke
...and apparently gemini & libra are a good combo according to that site
even though it says my g/f and I should be rocky but we're not. Therefore proving them right in another aspect about gemini's wanting solid proof, which I do, and that site doesn't, but it does. I hate astrology.
Continue doing you and get your mind on something more positive
"Librans will love your intellectual input, and may even see you as some type of guru in educational matters or issues generally."Nope. I'm a Libra btw.
Hmm, so maybe what I told you before wasn't blowing smoke
...and apparently gemini & libra are a good combo according to that site
even though it says my g/f and I should be rocky but we're not. Therefore proving them right in another aspect about gemini's wanting solid proof, which I do, and that site doesn't, but it does. I hate astrology.