I am an installer and there is no way to let the brain box know you have it in gear with these cars. If it was a cable shift asembly then you could use relays and switches....but not for the Honda Civic you have. Your tach wire is near the ditributer in a two pin plug in the engine bay, its a single blue wire not pluged into anything.....almost every honda is this way. 12 volt is a white wire, starter wire is black/white, accesory wire is yellow, ignition wire is black/yellow, all of these are in the steering column. In the kick panel are your parking lights which is a red/black wire, the lock wire is a green/white, unlock is a green/red, and door trigger is a light green/red. Your brake wire is at the brake pedal, a green white wire.Civics are pretty simple, takes about four hours for a alrm and remote start. Don't know why it took someone 12 hours to put an alarm on your car Hooked. Need anything else just ask.