how to be a man: tips you need

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Colored socks??? Really? Since when did this become heterosexual? We have a gay guy here at work and he LOVES to wear colored socks. So do the women. There is no way in hell you would catch me in colored socks. I also wouldn't go without socks. Walking around in shoes with no socks just looks ridiculous. About as bad as those guys that wear socks with sandals.
simple rule of thumb for dressing sharp. look to the gays, they do it right. i will get back to this when i get off work
 

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By colored socks, do you mean black socks too? Because I wear plain black athletic socks and I don't think they're gay.
I thought I put that. I meant to clarify with anything out side of black or white. Bright colors, patterns, etc is a huge red flag.

I am waiting for toms expansion on this. It's like a push right into the stereotype. Maybe its a location thing. Around here if you are wearing a cowboy hat, people go to the cowboy stereotype (for example). If you are wearing color/patterned socks, people go to the gay stereotype.
 


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I thought I put that. I meant to clarify with anything out side of black or white. Bright colors, patterns, etc is a huge red flag.

I am waiting for toms expansion on this. It's like a push right into the stereotype. Maybe its a location thing. Around here if you are wearing a cowboy hat, people go to the cowboy stereotype (for example). If you are wearing color/patterned socks, people go to the gay stereotype.
I'm sure you're going to find regional differences. Here, in Orlando, where there's a huge variety of races and cultures, people aren't stereotyped quite as quickly as in some of the other, less diverse, places. I don't expect the rules you'd use in Manhattan would fully apply in El Paso.
 

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a lot of your preconceived notions or stereotypes are based on socioeconomic levels. no matter the region, there are people who dress sharp, no matter their sexual preference. part of accepting growing up is learning how to present yourself as a grown up. a man should know how to dress. it is a complete package.
 


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I get that, but I'm sorry (stereotypes aside)...dressing sharp doesn't need to include colored socks.

There is good advice here for those that are interested in your style but the "your way or the highway" approach is a bit to much. Like said above, there are different styles and different approaches.
 

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i am not saying its only my way, but think of dressing yourself like you build these dumb little cars.... only this time you are trying to impress a woman, not a boy online.... attention to detail. i would love for everyone to take an interpretation of my style and apply it to their everyday style. america has really lost "the man" my attempt is to teach you guys how to act and dress like men, not boys.
 

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A man takes care of his responsibilities IE his kids,bills, keeps a job, isn't a druggie alcoholic with no respect for others around him, does not need others to handle his affairs. To simply see someone in crowd and say "oh what an immature child he has a backwards hat on" without knowing in the slightest degree what that person is about, is prejudice to the highest degree.

That being said, I do understand where you are coming from, but only from a professional standpoint. . If a chick is into me for my car or money from the get-go, I know it's nothing to be serious about. Furthermore, if she doesn't like how I dress then that's okay too.
 

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i am not saying its only my way, but think of dressing yourself like you build these dumb little cars.... only this time you are trying to impress a woman, not a boy online.... attention to detail. i would love for everyone to take an interpretation of my style and apply it to their everyday style. america has really lost "the man" my attempt is to teach you guys how to act and dress like men, not boys.
Here's the thing. At least on my end. I don't build my cars to impress anyone. I build them for myself and the way I like them. You will never see me ask on here if I should do something to my car, what color to paint it, what wheels to get, etc. If I like something and it goes well with the theme I am doing, I will incorporate it. I don't post pics as a way for approval, I do it as a way to show what I am working with and to put my vision to canvas.

I look at attire the same way. I have no need to impress. I found out long ago that if you need to change the way you dress to impress a woman, she isn't the one for you. Certain things, sure. My girl likes a certain shirt, a certain pair of boxer briefs, etc but I don't change my whole way of dressing to impress her. Be who you are not what you think others want you to be.

I am here for the laughs and to add my 2 cents in. Don't need to be told how to dress like someone else. :D

A man takes care of his responsibilities IE his kids,bills, keeps a job, isn't a druggie alcoholic with no respect for others around him, does not need others to handle his affairs. To simply see someone in crowd and say "oh what an immature child he has a backwards hat on" without knowing in the slightest degree what that person is about, is prejudice to the highest degree.

That being said, I do understand where you are coming from, but only from a professional standpoint. . If a chick is into me for my car or money from the get-go, I know it's nothing to be serious about. Furthermore, if she doesn't like how I dress then that's okay too.
Just want to clarify on my end as I am the one who started the hat rant. I never said anything about being an immature child. I just said it makes them look like retards. Kind of like a big wing on the back of your economy car makes the car look retarded, it has nothing to do with weather you can pay your bills or take care of your kids. :cool:
 

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I need to see some credentials before I take advice on how to be a man.

For all we know you got a vagina and hairy back so you call yourself a man.
 

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when i think of manhood, i think of being an adult.
and when i think of being an adult, i cant help but think about commitment(s).
i turn 20 years old this month, and i honestly can't see anytime down the road yet, where i'm ready to settle down. but that just might be me being "young, dumb and full of cum"

so what would you consider to be a reasonable age to settle down and what not?

(by settle down/commitments, i mean serious relationships/start a family where the life of clubbing, drinking, etc is a thing of the past)
 

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For me it seems that the age for me to start worrying about that would be around 26.
 

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after 27. yes i set an age parameter, but trust me so much changes when you are young. your brain physiology is changing vastly in your 20's hormones are running your decision making, honestly i do not believe you should be allowed to shack up until at least 27, by law. kids make STUPID decisions, hell some of you guys think that wearing colored socks makes a man GAY f**k, there is so much to learn in life yet. do not rush it. refine your pussy taste buds, you will find that what you like at 20 is so far from what you want when you become a man. enjoy the random bucking and get experience so that when the time is right you know you missed nothing, you learned a lot, and you can apply it to the one shot you got at an 8
 

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what would you consider to be "financially comfortable"? being able to pay bills and have money for a rainy day: ex. bail a friend out of jail, pay for emergency hospital bill? or what?
 

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Have you noticed no one is a definite 10 to two people? Me and my friend were talking about this at work and it came up how this never happened, and I believe that beauty or in this case a "10" would be in the eyes of the beholder.
 

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what would you consider to be "financially comfortable"? being able to pay bills and have money for a rainy day: ex. bail a friend out of jail, pay for emergency hospital bill? or what?
your money makes money for you... ie you have enough to invest in something that will net you passive income.. you can take a week vacation anywhere in the united states and its not going to strap you. that would be pretty comfortable. a job that gets you near 60k a year and your DTI reasonably low.. 30% or so.

Have you noticed no one is a definite 10 to two people? Me and my friend were talking about this at work and it came up how this never happened, and I believe that beauty or in this case a "10" would be in the eyes of the beholder.
there are no 10's its a conglomeration of features from different women put together. just like there is no 1's. the scale is 2-9 but there really can only be 1 9 out there... so be careful in your decision ;)

getting advice from a civic forum on how to be a man ???
questioning advise while having the handle "lowlife"....
 
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I'm not a guy, but I still would like to say a few words if I may. I agree with both Chris's reasoning and Tom's. I think that one SHOULD be himself. Because all in all that is the most attractive thing; a man that's comfortable in his own skin. Same as women. No one likes fake or artificial, and if they do there's something material to gain from it (money, fame...etc). Matt wears old jeans, a plain black Jockey t-shirt (sometimes a flannel with), Chucks and his old school Mariners hat that I bought him backwards. And I find him sexy just like that. I've dated the trendy high maintenance guys and I didn't appreciate it. Granted, I'm pretty low maintenance myself. Therefore I like my guys to be low maintenance.
That being said, there's a way to being yourself and looking good doing it. There are different styles that look good on different types of people. I think that there is good helpful advice that Tom is providing, and bits and pieces can be taken and applied to different people. And I think what Tom is trying to do (in his own hotshot way ;)) is to help guys find the confidence they may lack in certain areas. And I think that is very helpful. Countless times I've seen in our threads guys talking about girls/dates/crushes and I'm just like "oh no...".Not saying I'm a mankiller, but I am a woman :lol:
Just don't sell yourselves short boys. As far as the colored socks go, I'm not a fan either. But I know examples are just being thrown out.

lol who is this chick
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there are no 10's its a conglomeration of features from different women put together. just like there is no 1's. the scale is 2-9 but there really can only be 1 9 out there... so be careful in your decision ;)
True :lol:
 

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Have you noticed no one is a definite 10 to two people? Me and my friend were talking about this at work and it came up how this never happened, and I believe that beauty or in this case a "10" would be in the eyes of the beholder.
There is no such thing as a 10.
 

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...hell some of you guys think that wearing colored socks makes a man GAY f***...
Hahaha. I asked the guy at work, that IS GAY and he even reiterates my thoughts. He said that dressing sharp has nothing to do with gay or hetero, but there are some styles that throw flags. According to him, most of them that wear colored socks do it for the same reason that they put the rainbow stickers on their vehicles. It's a point to show that they are out and proud. Not that it goes that way for all of them, but for some that is the reason for doing it. There are some reasons they incorporate some styles.

Not saying that it exactly makes a man gay, just showing that it is something to think about when you go around telling others that they should be wearing colored socks and nothing else.

As far as age, it's all within yourself. I am older than all you punks and I haven't fully settled down. :lol: I don't know if I will anytime soon. We are happy where we are and there is no need to put a title on the relationship. Neither of us want kids so that isn't likely to happen soon.

One of my contractors when I was in cabinets has been with his girlfriend for over 35 years and they aren't and won't get married. They have 3 kids and are very happy where they are.

Settling down means different things to different people. I have friends that I grew up with that have already been divorced a couple of times and some have kids, some don't.

questioning advise while having the handle "lowlife"....
Right... Cause his name doesn't have to do with his car being low or anything. :lol:
 
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