Dood, all bullshit aside, what's going on? First ya move out to Indiana to be with the gf. Then ya say your gonna be moving back here and now NY?
Is everything alright?
everything is cool....its just that everything just happened at once and i dont know what the f**k to do. i was going to move to chicago and i was really excited about it....my trasnfer back was approved and everything for next week pretty much. i was in ny all last week with the fam and friends and it made me think that i have no reason not to be in ny. my family is there, my friends are there, my little nieces that i am not seeing grow up. i had such a blast while down there. my mom got laid off of work though and my little nieces kept asking me why i had to leave.
also...my mom had never asked me to come back cause she was allowing me to make my choices but on the bus ride to the airport she asked me to consider coming back which broke my heart. (my dad left her for another woman about 4 yrs ago after 25 yrs together and shes never been able to rise above it)
now the problem is that if i move back i dont have ajob and ill have to look for one. i have money to pay the bills less rent for about 1-2 months. my soon to be roommate in chicago is pissed and he says hes now living in lincoln park with another friend...i dont know if its true or not but that would suck cause it means i have no place in chicago anymore.
i dont know what to do. i tried making a pro.con list and i still cant decide.
ny---->family, long time friends, cheaper (less rent, no car expenses), but no secure job before moving back and will need to adjust back to lifestyle (great for the family side of me)
chicago----->nice place, young and hip, but much more expensive and no family (great for the i am young and want to have fun side of me)
i would ask for a transfer to ny but since i already asked about chicago and it was approved i dont want to seem like a d**k and change my mind. however, i am sure asking for a transfer and quitting a day before it becomes effective is not very professional either. i dont know what to do.
its so f**king hard, my heart tells me to do ny and wing it and bust my ass to find a job as quickly as possible....even something temporary while i find something permanent. but i also think about how fun chicago would be and i dont want to be a d**k to my friend who was counting on me to move out his parents. any help?
expenses in chicago would be about 1700/month
expenses in new yk would be about 1200/month