What are you doing / did you do today / CHAT THREAD

[ImportFan1]

A break up over text? People are getting lame these days.

Pretty much. Oh well. Life goes on. Since then I have lost over 50lbs and feel much better. Her loss.

 

[itsmycookie]

i understand alex's side a bit more from being good friends with a girl since high school. sometime's guys just think there's something there when girls are being nice. girls do occasionally just want guy friends for something different and guys can think it's something more than just friends.

other times girls are just b****es

This turning into Maury or something? lulz

 

[mymmeryloss]

I have an excuse. I have a horrible memory.

Weird, me too...

 

[JohnS.]

i understand alex's side a bit more from being good friends with a girl since high school. sometime's guys just think there's something there when girls are being nice. girls do occasionally just want guy friends for something different and guys can think it's something more than just friends.

other times girls are just b****es

I was like that with my friend. I asked her if there was something between us because I thought she was purposely saying stuff to try to give me a hint. But turns out I was wrong. She was just trying to be supportive and help me be optimistic.

And f**king LOL. How'd you go from #1 a*****e to mr. nice-heartfelt-open-lovey-dovey gai?

 

[crash!]

Well you're girlfriend sounds like a dumb one. Sorry to say, but you're MUCH better off without her. If she's dumping you to go back to her cheating ex then she's a dumbass. I have no respect for girls like that.

And I concur to the text thing. My bestie just got broken up with by her boyfriend after two years over text right before Valentine's Day. And he already had a date set up for VDay. WTF right?

Jesus John, I'm sorry to hear that

And thank you Eric. We do want guys as friends. I prefer guy friends anyway, I get along with them better. But it always sucks when you're really good friends with a guy and he's really into you... you feel really bad.
I have a dear friend of mine who asked me the other day "Why won't you date me?". And I answered honestly, I don't see you in that light, but I do kind of emotionally have feelings for him... but I don't show it. I don't want to give him the wrong impression.

 

[itsmycookie]

I was like that with my friend. I asked her if there was something between us because I thought she was purposely saying stuff to try to give me a hint. But turns out I was wrong. She was just trying to be supportive and help me be optimistic.

And f***ing LOL. How'd you go from #1 a*****e to mr. nice-heartfelt-open-lovey-dovey gai?

lol i guess i;m older and lazier. I still dislike most people and am not a nice person tbh. but the internet is just full of overly sensitive fags that take everything to serious.

i;m just nice on here since i;ve been her for a long time. unless it;s something i dislike.

 

[Puma]

No but he got pretty upset. I told him we could be friends and he was like "No, all or nothing". So I said fine and about an hour into the conversation he changed his mind to "Okay, I'll wait for you".

No idea how it happened.

F*CKING RUN! That would creep me the hell out. Wait for you, after you stated you're not ready? :eek:

BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT, in the guy's defense...you DID go out on 5 dates w/ him, and I won't say the rest. NO GUYS, SHE DIDN'T PUT OUT SO SHUT UP! So in essence, you kind of DID lead him on.

If you're gonna play the game girl, you gotta play it right. This is why I don't just date men. It's just friends, or all in.

lol run away. the friend zone is a horrible place to be. that;s why i;m staying right outside puma's friend zone. so when she finds herself back on the market i;ll be able to pounce from the shadows like a gazelle! keen on seeking out retribution for all the years of being scared off by big cats.

i;m coming for you!

Don't worry, we do

Hell if I do! F*CK stupid guys. I've proved I won't take sh*t w/ 2 guys on here.

We knew each other for over 3 years before we dated for about a month and a half. I haven't tried to contact her but I did see what she got back with her ex that cheater on her. I am also still friends with her little sister on FB as well. I set most of my stuff to Friends Only so oh well. Its not like I will go out of my way to block her. I haven't tried to contact her. The part I am most bitter about is the last time I saw her was the night of my birthday after she left my house and broke up with me a week later over text.

Honestly...WHY are/were you upset over only a month and a half? So what if you knew each other for 3 years or so? Clearly you didn't know each other well enough if you broke up that quick. That would creep ME out if a dude was trying to contact me after only a month and a half together, regardless of a friendship of 3 years.

 

[emerican]

playing battlefield 2 i dont play enough to warrent buying bf3

 

[Puma]

lol i guess i;m older and lazier. I still dislike most people and am not a nice person tbh. but the internet is just full of overly sensitive fags that take everything to serious.

i;m just nice on here since i;ve been her for a long time. unless it;s something i dislike.

He's trying to win me.

itmighthaveworked

 

[anfrey]

Yup. A month after we broke up I basically said I felt used and I haven't heard from her since. Removed me and all my friends from FB. Real mature.

you're better off without people like that in your life. some day, if she's intelligent enough to analyzer her past and prior actions, she'll send you a message and apologize. until then, good flocking riddance!

Pretty much. Oh well. Life goes on. Since then I have lost over 50lbs and feel much better. Her loss.

that's the spirit!

He did not and still doesn't undertand why.

not everyone believes in short-term relationships. i'm one of them. why would i invest my time, money, emotions, and effort into something that i know 100% has a limited shelf life? seems like a waste to me where i could be putting all that towards something more meaningful. think of it as paying rent vs paying a mortgage and building equity.

i understand alex's side a bit more from being good friends with a girl since high school. sometime's guys just think there's something there when girls are being nice. girls do occasionally just want guy friends for something different and guys can think it's something more than just friends. ]

i completely understand this, and this further reinforces why the "be honest and up front" reasoning is so important. yes, we all want to have a good time... but not at someone else's expense.

 

[anfrey]

So in essence, you kind of DID lead him on.

If you're gonna play the game girl, you gotta play it right. This is why I don't just date men. It's just friends, or all in.

this right here. five dates?! s***, it used to be three dates in and you were serious, going steady, etc.

lol i guess i;m older and lazier. I still dislike most people and am not a nice person tbh. but the internet is just full of overly sensitive fags that take everything to serious.

i;m just nice on here since i;ve been her for a long time. unless it;s something i dislike.

i've never seen the d**k side of you before (nohomo)

 

[ImportFan1]

Back on topic. Drinky drinky and myquil. 4 shots and nyquil in the last 30 minutes. Starting to feel good.

 

[emerican]

Ive never seen him be a straight up d**k to nobdy at worst pointing out stuff that wrong dosent make you a d**k man if you do it right just makes you honest.

 

[emerican]

Back on topic. Drinky drinky and myquil. 4 shots and nyquil in the last 30 minutes. Starting to feel good.

get codein syrup it will lesson the need for the alchol mix lol

 

[itsmycookie]

And thank you Eric. We do want guys as friends. I prefer guy friends anyway, I get along with them better. But it always sucks when you're really good friends with a guy and he's really into you... you feel really bad.
I have a dear friend of mine who asked me the other day "Why won't you date me?". And I answered honestly, I don't see you in that light, but I do kind of emotionally have feelings for him... but I don't show it. I don't want to give him the wrong impression.

yea it's akward. if one of their guy friends could do something and it would just be normal. but a girl does the same thing and suddenly it's a hidden secret message that she's interested in them. it's nothing though it's just her being a friend or being nice.

i completely understand this, and this further reinforces why the "be honest and up front" reasoning is so important. yes, we all want to have a good time... but not at someone else's expense.

when u get a new guy friend do u say "i just want us to be friends"? no you don't cause it's obvious. sometimes girls aren't looking for anything but friends but u can still hang out together and go on dates it doesn't mean anything. i don't think they should have to come out and state the obvious to begin with just because people can make things up in their head.

you go out for drinks and food with your guy friends and you aren't dating them. you can do the same thing with girls it doesn't have to mean anything.

He's trying to win me.

trust me, you'll know when i start trying ; )

 

[crash!]

not everyone believes in short-term relationships. i'm one of them. why would i invest my time, money, emotions, and effort into something that i know 100% has a limited shelf life? seems like a waste to me where i could be putting all that towards something more meaningful. think of it as paying rent vs paying a mortgage and building equity.

No he didn't understand why I wanted to be alone and not date anyone. I totally get that he didn't want to go through a short term relationship, I don't blame him. I just am really content being single and not dealing with the relationship bullshit.

F*CKING RUN! That would creep me the hell out. Wait for you, after you stated you're not ready? :eek:

BUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT, in the guy's defense...you DID go out on 5 dates w/ him, and I won't say the rest. NO GUYS, SHE DIDN'T PUT OUT SO SHUT UP! So in essence, you kind of DID lead him on.

If you're gonna play the game girl, you gotta play it right. This is why I don't just date men. It's just friends, or all in.

I did run. And I know I probably led him on, however if I really wanted something I would have went ahead and been his girlfriend like he told me he wanted me to be on like the third or fourth date. Granted, we've only known eachother for less than a month. I need to know you more than that to start a relationship. I wanna make sure you don't have the crazies.

And I didn't put out! He wanted to wait, remember?

 

[emerican]

thats the only reaosn you didnt cause he wanted to wait?? lol im just messing with you.

 

[itsmycookie]

i've never seen the d**k side of you before (nohomo)

Ive never seen him be a straight up d**k to nobdy at worst pointing out stuff that wrong dosent make you a d**k man if you do it right just makes you honest.

most normal people don't seem to appreciate me being so honest about what I think. people like opinions to be sugar coated with fluffy happy ways of hiding what it really means.

 

[crash!]

most normal people don't seem to appreciate me being so honest about what I think. people like opinions to be sugar coated with fluffy happy ways of hiding what it really means.

I always thought you were legit

 

[Puma]

No he didn't understand why I wanted to be alone and not date anyone. I totally get that he didn't want to go through a short term relationship, I don't blame him. I just am really content being single and not dealing with the relationship bulls***.




I did run. And I know I probably led him on, however if I really wanted something I would have went ahead and been his girlfriend like he told me he wanted me to be on like the third or fourth date. Granted, we've only known eachother for less than a month. I need to know you more than that to start a relationship. I wanna make sure you don't have the crazies.

And I didn't put out! He wanted to wait, remember?

If you're content, then you don't go out on dates, simple as that. Even 1 date is leading a guy on if you're content.

Only knew each other for a month and 5 dates!?! That's a date or 2 a week! Jesus girl, SLOW DOWN. No wonder the kid fell for you. If you're looking for a relationship, dates more often is OK, but not in your case.

And I never said you put out. SHEESH!

Erics....you don't need to try. <3
Edit..just read your email. D'AWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!