Youre spending money on a dog?
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Don't apologize, you have nothing to do with it! ha-ha I understand it sucks but ill get through it hopefullyI'm sorry Speedthat really sucks.
Uh oh.Youre spending money on a dog?
Choosing to ignore stupidity. ...
I too am a very practical, black and white person, and many people on here can confirm that.
But.
I also know when I may be wrong or out of line, or he is. I accept fault and humility. I don't provoke or prod. We are a team, no matter what. Things got stale and hard for us for about 4 months. Neither of us gave up trying to revive our happiness though.
We went back to the basics....why we are together. The nuts and bolts of us. We looked at what changed, whether positive or negative. The negative we acknowledged and agreed to move forward, that we can't undo the past but we can make our future.
Since we've buckled down I personally have never been more in love in my life. I still get flutterbuddies thinking about him, still miss him when I'm at work.
It just takes team work. If you don't go into it as a fully committed team...it'll never work
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I too am a very practical, black and white person, and many people on here can confirm that.
But.
I also know when I may be wrong or out of line, or he is. I accept fault and humility. I don't provoke or prod. We are a team, no matter what. Things got stale and hard for us for about 4 months. Neither of us gave up trying to revive our happiness though.
We went back to the basics....why we are together. The nuts and bolts of us. We looked at what changed, whether positive or negative. The negative we acknowledged and agreed to move forward, that we can't undo the past but we can make our future.
Since we've buckled down I personally have never been more in love in my life. I still get flutterbuddies thinking about him, still miss him when I'm at work.
It just takes team work. If you don't go into it as a fully committed team...it'll never work
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Preach it woman!
Ignoring stupidity?
I understand your point of view and I have in fact tried this, but unfortunately like you said; if you don't do it as a team it will never work out, and she just doesn't want to do it anymore and Idk how I can trudge on for us both. Granted that I don't want to keep trying anymore either if I will be the only one.
As for my wife, she no longer feels butterflies or anything and feels better when im gone so...Im figuring that I should just leave it be for the time being...Maybe we can work something out again later and try again as a team but for now, I am on my own...
I think she was talking about my commentIgnoring stupidity?
I understand your point of view and I have in fact tried this, but unfortunately like you said; if you don't do it as a team it will never work out, and she just doesn't want to do it anymore and Idk how I can trudge on for us both. Granted that I don't want to keep trying anymore either if I will be the only one.
As for my wife, she no longer feels butterflies or anything and feels better when im gone so...Im figuring that I should just leave it be for the time being...Maybe we can work something out again later and try again as a team but for now, I am on my own...
ooooohh lol, for some reason I forgot about thatI think she was talking about my comment
Bingo. And it takes 2 to file divorce. You could never sign.I think she was talking about my comment
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hmmm...iv'e heard of one of the couple not signing and that leading to big problems...what are your suggestions puma? I would like to keep trying but I know that I can be oblivious sometimes..
never with my cars..but in a relationship yes...when it comes to things like her hinting at hanging out with friends the next week lol I think my brain is being a bit selective because I remember everything else...she doesn't though ...Also, I'm wondering that...well it's been a while and I tend to do really cheesy things like flowers and pizza and playing a song outside her window with a boombox...so, should I change that and do something even more "original"?
Just sign it. If u r planning on keeping s**t good between u then dont cause problems...
My thoughts exactly, but I figure I could see the other option
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Life is too short to stay with one person if you aren't happy, I don't care who they are. You only go around this rock once and are gone. Who gives a s**t what other's think. If you aren't happy and haven't been for a while, move on and find someone you can be happy with. Kid's aren't an excuse to stay together either. I have friends that have parents that stayed together while we were growing up and they were miserable. Everyone would have been much better off had they parted ways and moved on. Not saying abandon the kids, just saying that staying in an unhappy relationship works it's way down to the children as well. They know when parents aren't happy. Doesn't take rocket science.
As much as I agree I would also like to say that : to each, his own. Some people view life as a long journey that one should use for whatever philosophy...others believe in reincarnation, meaning that you go around this rock more than twice...others see it as short, so you have to live to the moment. and so on. But whatever choice you make, choose it wisely and remember that, regardless whether you are aware of it, you affect everyones life around you...so make the right, wise decision instead of doing something like "following your heart" then in turn staying, making things worse thus ruining your childrens life..
It wasn't a serious suggestion. Honestly, no girl will work for you can't put a woman before your hobby. Which it sounds like that is what you have been and are doing.
Also, I'm wondering that...well it's been a while and I tend to do really cheesy things like flowers and pizza and playing a song outside her window with a boombox...so, should I change that and do something even more "original"?
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I actually never work on my "hobbies" around her or anyone for that fact. I only do any hobby when she is out with her friends...which she frankly does a lot of now lately. Before....it was fun and we hung out and went places and laughed, she was always first until our daughter came along. But then she started going out with her friends more and it didn't bother me, I got time to pick up a hobby - which I only did if I wsnt taking care of my daughter. And yes I almost always did take care of her, unless I had to urgently fix the car because of an overheating problem or something big. And looking baack, I guess we hardly went on vacations or big outings after she started hanging out with her friends...my schedule was tough then...10 to 16 hours a day can take a lot of your day and energy...she understood but now I feel that's where it all started and developed from...
So I'm really excited. Last year when I first met Matt, like JUST started talking and hanging out, we connected with music a ton. So, for my birthday (which he got me flowers and cheap champagne, my FAVORITE) he also bought tickets to Minus the Bear. A band that will forever remind me of him. So for those who have known me for a bit, remember that guy who had the all motor DA that we bought parts for eachother all the time? Well. That concert and the DA guys's birthday party was the SAME NIGHT. And I had no idea. So I had to choose: a guy I had just met (but couldn't stop thinking about) taking me to a concert of one of my favorite bands, OR someone I really really cared about (more in a friend way, but I didn't realize that at the time)'s birthday. So I chose the birthday. And I felt AWFUL about skipping out on Matt. He didn't even go to the concert, he ended up just wasting his money and was pretty upset. And of course we made up and started talking... then here we are!
So, what I'm getting at. This all happened in early November of last year. This November, Minus the Bear is coming BACK to Seattle and I'm going to surprise him with tickets. I told him to save the date, but he doesn't know yet.
What do you guys think? At that point it will be like a little less than a month for our one year, which I want to do something bigger. But I think this would be really cute and memorable.
So, what I'm getting at. This all happened in early November of last year. This November, Minus the Bear is coming BACK to Seattle and I'm going to surprise him with tickets.
I told him to save the date, but he doesn't know yet.What do you guys think? At that point it will be like a little less than a month for our one year, which I want to do something bigger. But I think this would be really cute and memorable.
I think woman are retarded is what i think
And whoa, why? I was trying to be cute. He likes them more than I do.
Now if it was Miley Cyrus, that'd be another thing.