I'm scared.If u have netflix check out Tom Papa freaked out at around 40 minutes in. Story of your life. I promise
Like we have anything better to do in this thread?
No but really, don't feel bad.
Does he know that you feel like he's not putting in enough effort into the relationship?
Me personally, I've been with the same girl since I was 15. I've lived with her since I was 16. I have zero interest in living with any of my guy friends for any amount of time. I guess these are just personal feelings and his are different, but I personally can't see or understand the appeal in it.
If the end game in life is to settle down with a woman that you love and can get along with well enough to stay happy, and learn from each other.. Then why risk losing that to "chill with the guys"?
I'm on your side boo boo!
It's funny because driving home from the wake of our friend that had passed away, we actually had a really good DISCUSSION about everything with us. He told me that I have been doing better on giving him space, and when he asked about how he was doing I honestly told him that it's still really fresh, and he's still got a bunch going on (new house he's excited about and a friend that just died) so I wasn't expecting anything. He told me that this will also be good for him in the sense that he can learn to take care of himself and grow as an adult, instead of me doing his laundry all the time And I did admit that I needed to be more proactive about reaching out to my friends to hang out with them. So it's just us learning to grow at this point.Keep your gut feelings in mind. Mine are, literally, never wrong. Ever. It's weird. If you feel like some s*** ain't right, keep your cool, but stay aware. If he's done nothing wrong, you don't want to over-react and sabotage your relationship.
The "spark" thing happened to me around the 2 year mark with my ex. We became this "blah" couple that didn't do anything. Turned out I needed some personal life changes (car, job, living situation). When all of that cleared up, it was pretty amazing how our relationship turned around. The fact that he's moving in with his boys leads me to believe he's taking proactive steps to overhaul his personal life. Don't take it offensively unless he's s***housed every day with a bunch of broads over there.
You, sir, are wise beyond your years. I really, REALLY enjoyed my manwhoring phase, but as I'm almost 30, I just want to settle down with a girl (the one I'm with is a definite candidate, although she's still a bit young and not ready for that yet), get my own house, renovate it, and enjoy it. Running through hoodrats was fun, but I'm way beyond that now. I feel ya!